Okay...here is the thing about guys. They love to talk talk talk it up about how women can never make a decision, or how it takes women too long to make up their mind.
First off: We have a lot more going on up there at the same time than you. (ask me about it...its scientific)
Second off: I have come to find out that this is not just characteristic of women.
Fess up guys because I got proof. When my PT friend called yesterday to finalize our plans for this afternoon, I was maybe unfairly? expecting him to have made some decisions. Now...before telling this story. I APPRECIATE a guys concern and acknowledgment of a woman's ideas and preferences. I APPRECIATE it when a guy courageously asks me out AND picks up the tab. That being said...don't take me too seriously.
So I got the phone call yesterday asking em if I was still interested. What the hay, right? So he asks me lunch or coffee? I had been leaning toward coffee, but I am trying this new thing called "letting the guy make some decisions." So I told him I was flexible and we could work around what time we wanted to go. He tells me that he could do either...again I say...I am flexible. Finally we decide...collectively...on lunch. Then ensues the painfully awkward choice as to where. Now...I know that said male doesn't know me so has to really take a shot in the dark with what I might like. So, he asks where I would like to go, and I tell him again, I am flexible. Remember: I am trying to run with this whole letting him make the decisions thingy. So he suggest we just decide tomorrow. My mind says (even though I am doing the whole let him decide thing): Why wait? Let's get this second BIG decision under our belts so we can move forward. So I SUGGEST (so as to make him think it is his idea) that he just decide tonight. He serves out three options. I return the serve with two...including one of his. He then tells me that it is too hard to choose between those two. Hmmmh...For pete's sake. I put on the pressure and he decides. But it took climbing mountains to get there. Haha
Part of what I love about meeting new people and going out with them on "dates" (loose term) is that you really gotta feel each other out. A big part of this for me is their sense of humor. I am pretty sarcastic by nature and found out early on in this current "interaction" that I should let someone realize that slowly rather than all at once, so as not to crash and burn with humor. I PLANNED (yah, i know, embarrassing) a joke to use for the initial call back from said man. Unbeknownst to him...it was a joke...and it bombed. Had me laughing, but I had to explain the joke...and that is the worst.
Moral of the Story: Ease into the humor.
If you were wondering...we had a good time.